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Awesome as always Starsailor

Btw, just finally finished "one day". Crazy ending, and enjoyable story.

[Starsailor]

Awesome as always Starsailor

Btw, just finally finished "one day". Crazy ending, and enjoyable story.

Cheers dude... Yeah - it's a great read 

[Starsailor]

Tuesday

THis day was very good i went out knowing I only had a little bit of time as was going to meet a friend after.

I made it a goal, and a priority to do 3 warm up direct approaches early on - within the first hour at least.

It was excellent because i got them done ery quickly, I made a decision to approach less attractive girls to warm up rather than wasting time waiting for hotter girls.

In the end I did 9 approaches in about an hour and a half which is EXCELLENT by my normal approaching standards.

i didn't get any closes or even have any sets that hooked well but thats irrelevant as I made steps towards greater social freedom. I even enjoyed the blowouts.

Victories - approached quite a lot, and without much hesitation. Probably one of my best days ever for this.

Stopped one real cute english girl.

Lessons: It's important to build momentum early on.

It's important to EXPRESS, not try to impress - I lost one set cos I was so in my head while talking to her, wasn't offering value, more just thinking about how to lead the conversation.

Bouncing girls right after opening is important, i still forget it too often.

keep talking after the open, do NOT seek a reaction.

What next? - Make sure I do more of the same next time I go out. Try to approach 20 girls Saturday.

[Starsailor]

Imagine waking up one day, and all the fear and the struggle had gone away.

That's what it felt like happened to me yesterday.... went out for one hour to do five approaches, just to keep the AA at bay. I did my new plan of 3 warm up sets. It took me 6 minutes - just see the girl and bang. I ejected from them all, cos I dunno why, maybe in my mind I'd committed to doing that before i approached.... they were just warm ups.

next an English girl, older than me, I kept in till she ejected... She led the conversation more than i would have liked, i was a bit at a loss for words.

Next approach - finnish girl, tall blonde. Not near as good looking up close.

She tried to walk off immediately, "I have to go", but I told her to tell me her name, and reeled her back in.

Talked rubbish for 2 minutes, then ran out of conversation so "You have very nice blue eyes"

She replied "You too"

I ejected then, shook her hand before I left, she held it tight and wanted to be closed. i didn't and realised later how shit it must feel for a girl to be approached by an awesome guy who then doesn't take her number.

I didn't want to to do any more approaches so went home.

It feels like my pain period has ended. the biggest issue now is just getting out of the house

Victories Approach anxiety was at a new low, like it's been completely blitzed - doing those warm ups is KEY I always knew that doing warm up sets was vital, but I wasn't at a level previously where I could do them easily and get myself into a more confident state. Now i am.

Lack of AA means i can actually just open fuckloads of sets - I don't even need any game, I can just approach till a girl likes me - Obviously thats not the goal though.

I will also be able to rack up new reference points more quickly from now on as I can just do set affter set after set till I smash my sticking points.

Lessons Do warm ups immediately. Stay in set longer... even if your talking total bullshit..... Its ok if you dont open a girl immediately when you see her - it's no reason to talk yourself out of doing the approach.

i can open seated / standing sets. The way you do it is ..... you just do it.

What's next?

Well for sure i need to go out one day and open 20 plus sets, and work on my sticking point of the first 2 minutes hardcore. And also to keep AA at bay

Today will not be that day though cos I've been with my friend all day, and have a date with a gorgeous girl soon. 

Tomorrow perhaps. Life is good.

[Starsailor]

date

i don't really want to be writing about dates / lays and stuff on here but going to post this one as I'm never going to see the girl again, and I learned quite alot.

Date with russian girl, beautiful brunette, going home to russia tomorrow

meet her at covent garden, walk her to south bank, she says she has to meet her friend at half 9... THis give me 2 hours.

Chat, i do some cold reading on her, very accurate, I'm leading her around holding her hand straight from the off. She complies.

Take her to a bench on the south bank, playing the questions game. She asks "what are we going to do next?"

i kiss her. She asks what are we going to do next. I lead her back to my flat.

30 minutes remain till she has to meet her friend. WE play around on the computer, kiss some more, she wont do anything else.  I try to get her to lie down on the bed, no go. Kiss some more.

Chat more, I'm qualifying, asking about her nerdiest secrets, and give her a big cuddle when she tells me...so cute!

Then kissing more, she starts getting more into it.... then...  i have only 5 minutes i better go.

I walk her to the station, telling funny stories... she ssays..... "oh.. I dont want to go, but I have to"

kiss her goodbye. Go home. The end.

Vicotries: Kissed her early, leading well

Lessons : I dont really know. I don't have the game to escalate super fast. It frustrated me tonight, but doesnt REALLY matter, as in general I'll be seeing girls I like more than once, - this was just unfortunate timing.

Whats next? This will surely improve my calibration for similar situations in future.

[Starsailor]

So that girl I dated in the last post has gone back to her country and now and sending me the most beautiful emails. SOOO into me, it's a beautiful thing.

I've been walking around all week feeling like the fucking bomb, hitting the gym hard, spending quality time with friends, feeling like I'm almost the guy I want to be. But theres always more to go.

I've done only one cold approach in 8 days - must remedy that today. I fear that my ability to cold approach will be gone to shit. However, I have way too many reference points of getting past AA to let it even be an issue anymore. I will approach today, and can't nobody stop me.


I'm feeling sad because the girl I've been seeing regularly and was starting to like  a lot has fobbed me off and cancelled our meeting on Monday.... Up till recently she's been super keen... It's a shame.

But the bigger shame is how it makes me feel - like a pillar of myself has been ripped down now I've lsot the validation I was getting from having her around.

Been re-watching the blueprint and realising HOW MUCH my mind is pinging to see how much value I have so I know how to act - It's pretty freaky to have that level of understanding of whats going on beneath the surface of your mind.

Although I'm sad to think taht I have probably lost that one cool girl I know that i can meet more great girls. Just takes a little work

Had a date last night.

Me: What did you like about me approaching you?

Her: The fact THAT you approached me.



I feel like I've got a new level baseline level of confidence that won't go down anymore, whereas it used to fluctuate massively. basically, its absolute fucking pride that I've smashed my fear of approaching attractive girls.

And i haven't even smashed it completely - but I have done it enough that I KNOW i can go out today, alone, and approach some girls and have a decent chance of getting an instant date or a number, etc. It's a liberating feeling

A lot done....More to do.

[Starsailor]

So yesterday was indeed hard work, I went to Trafalgar and actually did 2 approaches very quickly, but thereafter I flagged, and took over an hour to do another approach and that just getting proximity and asking for directions. I got some coffee and cake as I needed to chill out and get out of my head. THen I approached another girl and ejected after complimenting her.

Bought a book. Was walking down regent street and saw a slovenian girl with the most amazing eyes of anyone I've  ever seen in my life - pure turquoise.

Approached, she was flattered but I ran out of conversational steam very very quickly, and left.
I felt much better now, continued walking, saw a cute black girl but she was going down a quiet street and didnt want to scare her - said Ill get proximity at least, and just asked for directions when I got close - if I'd known how friendly she would be I'd have gone direct.

It was weird as I walkd home, tired , but having pushed myself enough to be pleased that sooo many girls were checking me out.

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Ramblings of a Madman

Man, my life is awesome at the moment.

Is there any better feeling than to wake up, with your arms around a gorgeous girl that you're really into? Maybe, but I'm not sure what

I've done one approach in he last week. Last Sunday, i said I'd go out just to keep the approaching habit / ability.

One approach, one cool girl, one phone number, She flaked though. But thats irrelevant because it just reaffirmed that on any day I can go out and meet a girl.

I've had internal shifts recently. I don't really have an abundance of women in my life, but I HAVE increased my abundance MENTALITY which makes a big difference.

This shift just happened from getting  lots of validation from girls in a short period, combined with confidence in my ability to meet girls from cold approach.

I can approach really well, and after that my first 2 minutes of so in set are hilariously bad. Thats the main thing I need to fix. When I get that on autopilot I'll be pretty much done with learning game.

My other aspects are fine. If I get a girl on a date, she will usually like me. Kissing a girl is ridiculously easy. Escalating at the right time is easy. Approaching is fairly simple.

I've had 2 girls fall in love with me in the past week. This isn't because I'm such an awesome guy (tho I am!) but because I now have the confidence to communicate that awesomeness to girls.

i remember all the times over the past year when i stressed about learning game, not being able to approach, and it seems like a dream.

Who knows, maybe all that shit will return but at the moment, it seems so obvious that girls I meet should be attracted to me.

Doing some one on one training tomorrow - I want to get pushed onwards and upwards.

[Starsailor]

Tipping Points in Game

I remember reading an interview with Lance Mason where he talked about tipping points in Game.

1. It starts to be fun.

2. You have women in your life.

3. Women start chasing you.

I'm somewhere  between 2 and 3 i suppose.

Yesterday I had a one on one. This was different from the last one I had as back then I was a mess, and completely desperate to get help. This time I just needed tweaking.

It was 2 hours of inner game chat, and theory and questions. And 4 hours field.

I got 5 numbers.

I have now set up 3 dates for the next 3 days, starting today.

My approach is pretty fucking good, on a good day..and I'm having more and more good days.

Yesterday was funny. i could have closed more hot girls, but they were all from out of town, or in a rush to meet someone or had boyfriends.

I was really really EXPRESSING myself in set. Telling girls straightaway about what a nerd I am. Then they'd tell me that they're nerds too.

maybe the best set was a tall brunette that I just jumped in front of, and said "WOW" and then just stood there. This was an experiment my coach asked me to try to illustrate that the girl is attracted to YOU and not your words or techniques.

I set up 2 dates by text - just by suggesting the date almost immediately after one or two texts back and forth.

This beats fucking around. If she likes you enough, she will meet you. If she doesn't, she probably wont meet you, however many clever witty texts you send her.

That's all for now.

I wanted to explore some of my deeper feelings about all of this, as gay as that sounds, but I'm not in the mood at the moment

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 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ejDL5dnxEGQ

I feel like I can go out and meet new girls easily. EASILY.

And I don't really feel like it. I will do tomorrow. But I don't really have time to fit in new girls at the moment,

My weekend is clogged up with girls.

I would like to fall in love now.

But I haven't yet met a girl that makes me feel like that. Except for one that just text me who doesn't live in London

I suppose thats another reason to go out and meet more hot girls.

The hardest part BY FAR is getting out of the house. I will go out tomorrow. Just to practise the skill, not to get numbers. process, not outcome.

It feels so fucking easy at the moment, like literally all I have to do is approach and open my mouth and they will like me.

Lesson Learned the other day: Approach girls you are attracted to, NOT girls you think you should be attracted to. I have my particular types. There are lots of girls who are HOT but they don't all make my heart beat faster.

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It's insane that I care so little about game now.

I spent so many years of my life in absolute frustration about not being able to attract girls. And now I can. It still seems ridiculously easy to go out and meet a girl. Like literally everytime I go out, I meet a new girl that wants to see me again.

I'm regularly seeing a super cool, super cute girl that I like a lot. How awesome is that. She's going back to her country in the winter tho which makes me sad 

Some retarded things I used to worry about regarding girls

Whether to text or call - If she likes you enough, it's irrelevant. If she doesn't, it's also irrelevant.

When / how / whether to touch a girl - Always escalate. If she doesn't feel comfortable she will make it clear to you.

If it's ok to ask questions or if I should be making statements to hook a set - Irrelevant. You can literally just talk like a retard and she'll stay -IF you're in the right headspace.





I need to reclaim control over the rest of my life now.

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Nice man, glad things going well!

[Starsailor]

So... I am now pretty much in a relationship with an awesome girl. It won't last because she wont be here tooooo much longer.... but I'm just enjoying the moment.

And I'm learning A LOT in the process.

So the adventures of starsailor are over for a little while at least.

New adventures will come to pass next year. In the meantime i will update with idea / experiences, etc

Just less regularly

[Starsailor]

Nice man, glad things going well!

thanks mate

be sure and hit me up next time ur in london!

[Starsailor]

Having a girlfriend is awesome, and it's definitely the right thing for me at this moment.

She is attractive, intelligent and fun to be with, plus has great taste in music, books, etc.


I've gotten to a level that when we finish I'll be very confident that I can go out and meet new girls without too much difficulty.

I do need to make more effort to do occasional approaches though so that I don't forget everything I've learned.

I'm also getting a lot of sexual experience - which I've been missing out on for most of my life which is going to really improve my inner game in the long term.

I've had so many epiphanies in the last few months. A major one is that now I don't have any desperation anymore about gettig girls, I realise that I will be learning about girls and improving my confidence and my game for THE REST OF MY LIFE. I'll never stop improving in this area.

There is no END POINT. It really is all about the journey.

My "game" is probably about 20 times what it was 18 months ago. It blows my mind to think that in another 5 - 10 years, I could be 20 times better than I am now.

But if I'm not, then that's ok too.